Two therapists went looking to understand a new therapy and found their own life shift instead. This is an honest conversation about recovered memory, emotional safety in marriage, releasing control, and healing childhood trauma together as a couple.
Tarah and EJ Kerwin help couples for a living through their counseling center in Tucson and their business, Relationship Renovation. In this episode they share the story of a supervised ketamine experience in 2022 that surfaced memories Tarah had carried since childhood, and how facing it together reshaped their intimacy, their parenting, and the way they teach couples that safety cannot be forced, only created.
We talk about who they each were before, the people pleasing and the control, and who they are becoming now. We talk about joy, fear, self compassion, and the slow work of learning that you are allowed to feel however you feel.
What we get into:
00:00 Recording on the road for the first time
02:30 The power of story and healing
05:00 If we are lucky, we have many life shifts
09:00 EJ on learning to experience joy
13:00 Before versions of themselves
23:00 When real life showed up and coping stopped working
26:00 The ketamine offer and the first session
30:00 What began to surface
34:00 The Palmers and the memory that changed everything
41:00 EJ watching it unfold
45:00 The kitchen conversation and releasing control
54:00 Feeling free, feeling safe
57:00 The men's group and finding what is authentically his
01:04:00 Talking to their kids about being human
01:08:00 We are not uniquely broken
About the guests:
Tarah Kerwin is a marriage and family therapist and clinical supervisor. EJ Kerwin leads a men's group called Men Who Do the Work. Together they run Relationship Renovation, a coaching and podcast business, and a counseling center in Tucson, and they are parents to a blended family of four.
Find Tarah and EJ:
Website: https://relationshiprenovation.com
Podcast: Relationship Renovation
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfb8I3evBi7aZcVnmvN_yPw
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