Some moments don't announce themselves. They arrive as headaches you explain away, as an MRI you schedule between school pickups and client calls. And then your phone rings ten minutes after you get home, and everything you thought you knew about your life gets quietly rearranged.
Jen Dary was 35, a business owner and new mom to two babies, when a neurologist told her she had a lemon-sized brain tumor sitting behind her left eye. What followed wasn't just a medical crisis. It was a complete unraveling of who she thought she was supposed to be, and a slow, surprising reconstruction of who she actually wanted to become.
In this conversation, Jen talks about the strange calm that preceded brain surgery, the spiritual visions that carried her through, and the grief that arrived weeks later in a coffee shop. She shares what it looks like to release the identity that doesn't fit anymore, and how she came to understand her life less as something that happened to her, and more as something she might have chosen.
What You'll Hear:
• The phone call that changed everything, and the strange quiet before she told anyone
• How Jen organized, planned, and kept moving as a way to survive the shock
• The visions and spiritual experiences that shaped her recovery and her new book
• What survivor's guilt looks like when you meet someone whose tumor wasn't benign
• The shift from type-A responsibility to living like you don't need permission
• How writing her memoir helped her leave something of herself for her sons
Guest Bio:
Author Jen Dary is a highly sought-after leadership coach, entrepreneur, brain tumor survivor, podcast host, and mom. As founder of the coaching firm Plucky (https://www.beplucky.com/) , she has coached professionals from over 200 companies, including Google, Facebook, Slack, Code for America, The New York Times, and many more. She has shared her expertise with the Wall Street Journal (https://www.wsj.com/articles/stop-telling-everyone-what-you-do-for-a-living-5daa8fc9) , and as guest on multiple podcasts (https://www.beplucky.com/about/) including Harvard Business Review's Women at Work (https://hbr.org/podcast/2023/06/how-to-manage-finding-yourself-again) . She has written for Harvard Business Review online (https://hbr.org/2024/06/5-signs-your-one-on-ones-arent-working) and was published in Harvard Business Review's Work Smart Series. Jen was a Virginia Center for the Creative Arts resident and is active in the DC writing scene.
Jen's first book "I Believe in Everything: A Memoir of Illness, Motherhood and Magic (http://daring.house/i-believe-in-everything) " will be released January 2026 (Daring House, LLC). Jen lives in Northern Virginia with her husband and two young sons.
More at: jendarywriter.com/ (https://www.jendarywriter.com/) and https://linktr.ee/jendarywriter
"I Believe in Everything" Official Website: daring.house/i-believe-in-everything (https://www.daring.house/i-believe-in-everything)
Jen Dary on IG: @jendarywriter (https://www.instagram.com/jendarywriter/)
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brain tumor survivor, life shift moment, identity after illness, brain surgery recovery, spiritual awakening, finding purpose after trauma, survivor's guilt, meningioma, radical acceptance, living with intention
