Tania Chomyk shares her story of infant loss, from the morning she lost her six month old son to the book she wrote 28 years later about grief, hope, and learning to carry both.
On November 11th, 1998, Tania woke up and told her husband, what an angel, he slept through the night. Her son Danylo had already passed. In this conversation, she walks us through the fog of that day, the months she spent retreating, and the five year old daughter who gave her a reason to keep going. She also shares the quiet ritual she kept for twelve years, the difference between clean pain and dirty pain, and how a research paper written in 2002 became her book, Bringing Light to Loss.
Content note: this episode includes discussion of the loss of an infant child.
ABOUT TANIA
Tania Chomyk is an author, life transition expert, award-winning inspirational speaker and educator with more than 30 years of experience in higher education, career development, leadership and personal growth. The unexpected loss of her infant son, Danylo, became the catalyst for her life's work helping others navigate grief, life transitions and new beginnings with courage, clarity, and hope. She is the author of Bringing Light to Loss: Redefining Grief to Reclaim Hope and Meaning.
Tania's website: https://taniachomyk.com/
Bringing Light to Loss: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0FQJTN2M1
CHAPTERS
0:00 The morning an angel slept through the night
1:19 Welcome to The Life Shift
2:07 Who Tania is in 2026
5:00 Care, but do not carry
6:18 A free spirit and Ukrainian dance practice
9:59 Freedom as an anchor
13:20 The checklist life and the million dollar family
15:00 November 11th, 1998
16:41 How do you go on?
17:33 Signs, and a Beanie Baby angel
20:26 Anger at God
21:23 A finger under the nose for twelve years
22:54 Retreating, and the Easter question
25:49 Having a relationship with grief
30:32 Clean pain, dirty pain, and marriage after child loss
32:11 When the marriage ended
39:30 Retreat as a way to recharge
42:39 Did any good come from this?
45:02 Guilt, and wondering what he would look like
47:12 From research paper to book
52:48 Where to find Tania
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infant loss, grieving a child, losing a baby, bereaved mother, child loss, grief and hope, life after loss, grief and marriage, clean pain and dirty pain, Bringing Light to Loss, Tania Chomyk, The Life Shift Podcast
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